It is ironic that Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop chose this as a challenge of the week. It is exactly part of my current struggle in an ongoing saga of, “Who the hell have I become?” I am middle age-ish and in the midst of Erikson’s Generativity vs. Stagnation stage, I am frustrated at my lack of being “settled” somewhere- anywhere, just settled. Ya know, pick a career and make a go of it! Be somebody! Excel! Accomplish! Settle!
I am in the process of moving from three part-time jobs to ONE full-time job. While this sounds like heaven on earth, finding the job has been nothing if not completely stressful. Like, wake up at all hours of the night and not be able to go back to sleep resulting in pretty much continual exhaustion, stressful.
Over the past three weeks I have, admittedly, entertained thoughts of, “What if it were Just Me?”, “What if I had never married and had kids?”, “How would this be different?” The answers? Well, I’m SO glad the Writer’s Workshop asked!
The ten things I miss about being alone, in no particular order, are:
1. The freedom to come and go as I choose. Having the ability to make my own schedule was amazing and simple and wonderful. Lonely at times, but I was a good friend to myself and I had a good time.
3. The capacity to move across town or across the country if that would be best for me. I can find jobs in my chosen field, just not in my current locale. Major bummer. It’s either uproot my kids and hope my husband could find work elsewhere, or suck it up and maybe change career paths- SO not my choice! Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.
4. The ability to make all decisions based solely on what’s good for me. See above.
5. The freedom to go home at night and sit in front of the TV and do blessedly-NOTHING, which includes thinking! The ability to get lost in, say, Matlock where every detail is taken care of in a mere 60 minute time slot.
6. Expendable income. I just want to be able to buy, say, a latte without having to scrounge change from the floorboards.
7. The ability to pick up and go out at a moment’s notice. You know, when a friend calls and wants to just go downtown and hang out.
10. A clean house.
THOSE are the things I miss most.